Before my daughter, Ava, being the size of a pin drop in my belly I knew I had been going to have to travel when she was pretty young. There is a training conference I used to be wanting to attend but planned on waiting until a minimum of April 2014, when my daughter will be one. – mom & daughter kiss
But merely like life, my perfectly organized plan didn’t follow the rules I presented for it. The universe had other plans and the only time I’d be capable of attend this conference could be when my daughter was Three months old. I was torn!
It was something I was looking towards for nearly a year. It was a thing that will allow me to cultivate personally and professionally. It had been a gathering I knew that could be absolutely life changing. But at the same time, that meant leaving my baby girl for 4 nights and 5 days. It also meant pumping hells of breast milk allowing my hubby to carry on to secure her my milk as i was gone. And it also meant figuring out how to travel on a plane with a breast pump and possibly milk.
My daughter was created and merely a few weeks later I dedicated to the conference and decided I had been likely to get it done. Those initial few weeks were hell, therefore i figured this would be a piece of cake plus a nice well-deserved break for mommy.
Well, other weeks pass as well as the conference only agreed to be days away. My mind was convincing me it was a bad idea. In reality, an awful idea. My mind was creating irrational possibilities and so i wouldn’t have to leave my daughter… like having my better half drive 10 hours and sit within the accommodation with Ava for several ten-hour days… hmmm.
1) Realize you will find the power of choice. To go or otherwise not to look. Quiet the mind and make sure your heart and head are aligned.
With the support of those around me I noticed I had been responsible and that i had the power of choice. I did not Need to go. Furthermore, i didn’t HAVE to stay. So after consideration I aligned my heart and head and chose to attend the conference.
2) Remind yourself you deserve this, on every level.
I needed to remind myself that I did deserve this. Less a rest or getting-away from chaos but because a special treat for myself. I should do stuff that I’m excited about. I need to grow to higher levels both personally and professionally. And my biggest deciding step to go was that if my daughter was in my shoes… I’d encourage her to look. And I’m sure if she was of sufficient age to talk and understand, she’d want her mommy to accomplish what’s important to her.
3) Crying is ok!
So the milk was stored. The pump was packed. And that we were on the airport. I began crying on the way. There was clearly a fleeting looked at this could be the last time I ever see my daughter… what if the plane decreases? What if I don’t make it back?! After my better half brought me back down to reality and assured me everything could be okay, I provided me with daughter my last kisses before I left and headed to security.
I am not saying oahu is the happiest moment in my life, nevertheless it wasn’t the saddest either. I did not enjoy leaving my daughter or even the feeling I felt… however knew if I kept putting one foot while watching other ultimately I’d end up right back to my daughter. The weekend will fly by and I will be home before Yes, it. I will be refreshed, recharged and re-energized. I knew this because that’s how I always felt after attending coaching conferences and trainings.
4) Pack many reminders of the baby! Videos, pictures, a toy. Whatever can help you feel connected. And appearance in frequently.
What reduced the problem tremendously is the constant reminder that I deserve this time. What helped me even more-so was the continual photos and videos my better half would send to my iPhone. I’d see my daughter every morning and also got to virtually tuck her in at night.
I know she’ll never remember this weekend and can never even realize I left. But I’ll remember this trip. I’ll remember how difficult it was. I’ll remember simply how much I missed her. I’ll remember just how much I valued every minute I had while I was here. I’ll remember I obtained through it and we both survived. But most importantly, I’ll remember her beautiful smile I came where you can.
5) Baby won’t forget you. And you also won’t forget baby. It will increase your bond, your patience therefore making you a better mom upon your return.
She loved me no less for leaving. She didn’t forget about me. I didnrrrt forget about her. And also this opportunity truly allowed me to not only be described as a better coach but a better mom, too. – mom & daughter kiss